Disclaimer…
I think it’s safe to say
that everyone wants, needs, and appreciates the limbs on their bodies. I have yet to hear a single person in this
world say, “Oh, my hands, arms, fingers, legs or toes continuously hurts and
causes me grief on a regular, so I’m going to ask my doctor to cut them off.” As a matter of fact, even during
life-threatening situations, where a person’s nerves are so poorly damaged that
their doctor highly recommends amputation to avoid deadly complications, they still
weigh all options before making that final decision. They make such a sacrifice because removing
that infected limb is their optimal option for survival. What if I told you that there are people in
your life that needs to be treated in the same manner. Meaning, your ties, connections, and relations
to those individuals needs to be completely detached from your life for you to survive
and live prosperously.
Similar to cancerous
tumors, deadly infections, thickened nerve tissues, and frostbites, there are
people in this world with venomous minds and hearts, that can shoot through
your life and cause grave damages to you psychologically, physically,
spiritually, and financially. Yes, you
may love them and yes, you may think that you want, need, and
appreciate having them in your life, but when their presence causes potential
threat to your presence, they must be removed expeditiously (In my T.I
voice). There should NEVER be a moment
where you love and need anyone on this earth to the point that you willfully
allow them to kill your spirit, poison your mind, break your heart, and block
your blessings. You have to cut them
off, stand on your own, and move on, even if they represent the “leg” of
your life. The “leg” of
your life is a phrase I use to describe someone you can’t stand on your own
without. It’s someone that causes your
life to feel stagnant and unbalanced when they’re not around. What if I told you that you confused
that “crutch” for a leg? What if I told
you that the crutch you thought were legs needed to be removed to force you to
take mindful and meaningful steps towards your purpose in life?
You must make a conscious
decision to put your wellbeing first. Be
selfish and stubborn as you can be when it pertains to preserving your sanity. If someone causes you more hurt than
happiness… #ChopChop. If someone
causes you more grief than growth…#ChopChop. If someone
causes you more setbacks than settlements… #ChopChop. That person
needs to be amputated! That’s not to say
you stop loving, caring, or praying for them, but it does mean you need to move
on and learn how to navigate through life without them because life does go on!
Life doesn’t end with an amputation, as a
matter of fact, the sole purpose for that surgical procedure is to preserve life. There are plenty of amputees doing amazing
things. For example, Corporal Todd Love is a triple amputee injured in 2010 in Afghanistan, who
continues to enjoy skydiving,
alligator wrestling, and kayaking. Hell, there’s a whole Amputee Soccer
Association that literally “took their pain and played with
it,” as Charlie Chaplin would say.
If these people can move on and live their best life without an essential
part of their body that they’ve been relying on since they were born, then you
shouldn’t have a problem departing from someone who doesn’t love, respect, or
value you. This includes your
significant other, best friend, employer, coworker, and especially FAMILY
MEMBERS! FYI… Just because you’re
related doesn’t mean you have to relate to their bullshit. #ChopChop.
I’m going to close this
week’s blog on this note. This year, 2020,
taught me a lot. Life is too short to take
moments and people for granted. In a time when we’re being demanded to
quarantine and dissocialize from the outside world, there’s a grave need to be
surrounded by “essential” people. So, if
there’s anyone in your life that you know is not right for your growth in all areas
of development, PRAY for them and then STRAY from them.
